Perception is reality.
That is, the way we see things constitutes our beliefs about the world around
us.
It is so easy to
forget that one of the most incredible choices we have is that of our
perspectives, or our way of seeing, feeling about and approaching the multitude
of dimensions that make up our lives.
We choose our
perspectives every minute of every day… how we see, feel and think about every
situation that comes our way.
Our perspectives not
only affect the way we feel about our life, but more importantly, they define
how we deal with and resolve any given situation, sometimes positively and
sometimes not.
One of the biggest
traps we fall into is believing that there is only one way of looking at
something.
This one way so
quickly becomes our reality that we lose the ability to see things differently,
creating a “that’s just the way it is” mentality.
Well here’s another
reality: It is possible to choose a new perspective for any area of your life,
commit to actions that keep you in that perspective and begin to watch your
life change as a result.
It is not a difficult
process; you just have to follow a PICK plan and
roll with it.
Perspective. First think about the situation at hand
and define your perspective — how do you see it, what do you think and feel
about it, and what are the impacts on you?
Give this perspective
a name — the “lazy” perspective, or maybe “victim” or “control-freak.”
Inhabit. Try on other perspectives, live in them,
inhabit them. Next, make up and write down some other possible perspectives,
like the “empowered” perspective, or the “dedicated,” or “cowboy,” or “joyous”
perspectives.
Once you have created
some, spend time being in each one. Make notes about what you experience in
each.
What does your
situation look like from that point of view? If you really saw your situation
from that perspective, what would be different?
Move to all the
different perspectives you have brainstormed and play with experiencing the
thoughts and feelings of each one.
Choice. Choose a new way, get clear on how to
get there and create your plan. Of all the perspectives you created and played
with above, decide which one gets you closest to what you want your life to
look like and claim it as a new way of approaching your situation. Next, make a
list of things you would have to do to make the perspective become your
reality.
These might be actions
you take, new thoughts you adopt or things you stop doing or thinking.
Kick it into action. So you’ve created some lists … great. If
they stay just lists, they won’t do you a bit of good. Kicking it into action
through commitment is the key. Choose three things from the list to commit to.
Write them on a Post-it to remind yourself and stick it on your computer.
Finally, who can you
ask to help you stay true to your plan? Call that person — now. Explain what
you are doing, ask for support and for the person to check in with you to see
how it’s going.
Our perspectives are
incredibly powerful — so much so that we often claim they are reality.
Remember, it’s your choice, and you can choose a new perspective that will.
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